ALLAN'S

We often mistakenly believe that people’s character is fixed.As a result, when we get to hang out with our friend’s and they display bad behaviour,we see as if we made the wrong choice.The reality is we have to live with people the way they want,not how we want,as I would say “sipangwingwi”.A person should know boundaries and doesn’t cross them.Also,be bold enough in time’s to speak about such things to the individual.Let them know where they stand.
Set clear expectations like this: “Tonny, you told me you’re somebody who shows up on time, but four times in the last two weeks, you’ve been late”.
Tonny responds, “But it’s only few mins”.
“few mins each day?But you said you’re a reliable person,that doesn’t add up,that’s going to cause issues “.
When you compromise standards at the personal level, you create a link that low standards are not accepted.
The direct approach towards people gives them the option many people will not take. You’re not going to bat a thousand on people. When you see that people aren’t doing thing’s rightly,you must be clear about your
standards and tell them how they’re falling short. Oftentimes, they will surprise
you by stepping up.
Let’s say that Tommy behaviour continues to be a problem. It gets to a point to let him go, he won’t be surprised because you’ve told him what he needed to improve. You say, “Tommy, I don’t think this is going to be a surprise to you because you were late four times in two weeks, and I told you that’s an issue between us. Even so,you continued to be late. I’m afraid I have no choice but to let you go.”
Straight to the point.